Home for now, 12th December 2016.
Allahumma solli ‘ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ‘ala Ali sayyidina Muhammad.
Salam Maulidurrasul, 12 Rabiulawal 1438H.
I'm not sure how to do this –
A part of me is wanting to make it private and just surprise everyone once the baby comes out inshaAllah. But another bigger part of me is wanting to share and exchange (with other mothers) about the ups and downs of being an expecting mother, pregnancy diet tips, pregnancy yoga & last but not least, maternity style yay! 😄
Usually, when a person isn’t married yet, people ask “Bila nak kahwin?”, when a person is married but haven’t been blessed with a baby yet, people ask “Bila nak dapat anak?”, when a person is married and have been blessed with a son, people ask “Bila nak dapat anak perempuan pulak?” (& vice versa), and when a person has been blessed with a pair of son and daughter, people ask “Bila nak tambah anak lagi?”
Hahahahaha.
I guess, we all can relate to these nerve-wrecking questions to a conversation (or our people say, soalan cepumas) which following our moods – sometimes we can take it openly and sometimes we just feel like punching them in their face for being nosy. My husband and I have been asked “Bila nak dapat anak?” a lot of times too. Most of the times, we take it openly because after marriage we always pray to Allah that “You will give when the time is right and You know best”. With that, we enjoy our single lives together doing the things that we know once we have a baby, we might have to put extra effort into doing or finishing it.
We’ve been married for 2 years and only now God decides to bless us with a child and we believe that it means, we are ready now following our prayers to Him, inshaAllah. So, don’t worry if you’ve been married for a year, 3 years, 5 or more but haven’t been blessed with one. Keep on praying and believing in His blessings. Just like how Nabi Zakaria did – he never gave up in praying to Allah for a child and finally (even when he’s old and his wife infertile), Allah blessed him with Nabi Yahya (Surah Maryam, Ayat 1-10).
In the meantime, keep enjoying your single life with your spouse. Explore something new like going dirty dancing together (tango, waltz or fusion dance whatever you prefer to keep the heat going 😜), caving or diving, start a healthy lifestyle with clean eating together, attend religious talks and become an avid volunteer to a cause that you really care for. For example, becoming a weekend teacher to the Rohingyan or Syrian kids, or just spend sometime with them talking about their dreams and ambitions.
And also, don’t worry! When you are asked these soalan cepumas, try to take it lightly and say “Pray for me” (because most of the times, people just want to break the ice but don’t know where to start) or giggle while putting your hand over your mouth, or if that time you are feeling annoyed but can’t punch them in the face (obvsly!), you just muster your courage to fake a smile and walk away. 😆
And if there are married women out there who really want to get pregnant but haven’t been blessed so yet, or anyone really wanting something but it just doesn’t come your way yet, try practicing this doa (after every solat fardhu) which after sometime of practicing this prayer – soothed me a lot when I was confused with my career path.
"Ya Allah! Berikanlah aku keredhaan atas penentuanMu dan berkatilah aku pada apa yang telah ditentukan (diqadarkan), hingga tidaklah aku ingin mendahulukan apa yang Engkau lewatkan dan tidak pula melewatkan apa yang telah Engkau dahulukan. Amin."
To expecting parents out there, may He ease it all and that we make it through the journey inshaAllah amin. Next update on pregnancy would be on how we found out that we are pregnant!
Till then. Love yous,
Mus
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